Here are the 7 proven tips presented to you by an NLP Practitioner & Life Coach. I gave these tips to my clients and their feedback was amazing.
We all carry around a critic that appears to be focused on
making us miserable. Life is simpler and more enjoyable if you
can silence your inner critic. If you spend some time and really listen
to this critic, you’ll be amazed by what you hear. You’ve never known anyone so
negative or so odd.
Yet you listen to your inner critic as if you’re listening
to an expert. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Change how you view
your internal dialogue:
1. Listen to your inner critic
dispassionately. Just stop and listen for a minute.
Notice the things it says. It won’t take long before you realize you’re
listening to a lunatic. In fact, listen to your self-talk in general. Imagine
what “you” say to yourself while you’re watching TV:
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“Oh yeah!
I love this movie, except the acting stinks and some parts are boring. I think
I have time to go to the bathroom and get a snack before it starts getting
good.
I’m still fat and can barely get off the couch because I’m stuck so far down in
the cushions. If my mom had treated me better, I wouldn’t be so addicted to
eating junk. I loved watching Fat Albert when I was a kid...”
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What would happen if you were sitting next to a
person rambling on like this? You’d be looking for the nearest exit. Yet this
is the way we speak to ourselves. Realize that you’re listening to someone
you’d avoid in real life. There’s no reason to take self-talk seriously, but we
drag this inner dialog around with us and listen to it!
2. Ask yourself what you would say to a friend
or a child in the same situation. Or imagine what your best friend would
say to you. The language, comments, and advice would be much different than
what you say to yourself.
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When your critical dialog starts, ignore the
criticism and consciously practice being as gentle with yourself as you would to
a friend or a child.
3. Remember all the times you were successful.
Psychologists believe it requires ten positive experiences to overcome one bad
experience. Take a couple of minutes each day to remember the all the amazing
things you’ve accomplished.
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In fact, with diligence, this can become a
habit. As soon as a negative thought enters your mind, you can instantly
think of something positive, instead.
4. Write it down. Instead of just hearing
your inner critic, write down what was said and read it. It will seem less
credible in a new format.
5. Put the criticism to the test. What
evidence do you have to support this negative statement? Can you think of
instances in the past where this statement was false?
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If you were more positive, how would you view
this situation? What can you gain from your current situation?
6. Keep your mind on today. The past is of
little value today, and tomorrow is impossible to predict. Keep your attention
on making the most of today. By doing that consistently, tomorrow will take
care of itself.
7. Be grateful. The easiest way to uplift
your mood and your self-talk is to spend time feeling grateful. List the things
in your life that fill you with feelings of gratitude.
Your inner critic has little to offer you. Realize
how silly your inner talk can be. You’d never be friends with a person
that spoke that way. And you’d certainly never take them seriously. You’d stay
as far away as you possibly could.
Use these tips to keep your inner critic under control and develop
the habit of speaking positively to yourself, instead. Your self-confidence and
success will soar. You can reach out to me for any further guidance. Check my profile on
